I am back! As some of you may know, I took a little bit of a leave the past couple months because I just got married! Thank you for being patient with me while I took some time for myself. But now I am back and ready to dive in!
Throughout this past year since I began my Bridal Wellness program, I have received a lot of questions about it such as:
- Why do you want to work with brides?
- Is this just to help them look good or fit into their wedding dress?
- How will brides benefit from your work?
I have always answered these questions with the same few answers but as I took some time off to prepare for our wedding, I really truly was able to think about these questions. Today I want to share my wedding experience with you and hopefully this will help you understand a little bit more about why I want to work with brides. And no it is not just to help them fit into their dress for one day. It is so much more.
As I have always said to my clients, and to any folks out there interested in what I do, I want to help brides to destress, feel confident and enjoy every moment of their wedding day and life afterwards. So what did this look like on our wedding day? Let me tell you.
Our wedding day was magical. I know many people say that about their wedding but it truly was. The planning phases of the wedding weren't always enjoyable. We didn't always see eye to eye on certain decisions that were being made but at some point you have to pick and choose your battles. Some things just aren't worth stressing over. During the last couple weeks before the wedding, I started to feel the stress. I hadn't before but now we were on crunch time and waited until the last minute to do a lot of things. We had some little hiccups along the way, but we either fixed them or just said "it is out of our hands" and brushed it off. During these last few weeks, I would spend 5-20 minutes a day breathing and meditating as well as exercising daily. Let me tell you, this was a game changer for me! It is so important to take some time for yourself!
So what did our wedding day look like? Absolutely perfect. Yes maybe the DJ didn't play every song we wanted to, my nephews (the ring bearers) were running around like crazy men, nobody really understood what to do with the guestbook, the best man almost broke the microphone, we almost forgot to cut the cake, we had that crazy uncle who guests think is a wedding crasher and I am sure I could probably go on. But the truth is, those "bad" things that I just listed weren't bad at all. They weren't in the timeline or schedule but they made the wedding what it was. When I look back on our wedding, I don't regret one single thing. I don't think anything wrong happened. It was a perfect night. I married the man of my dreams and had a night that I will never forget with my family and friends. Ladies, that is what a wedding is all about. It is not about perfection or competition, it is about LOVE. I received 3 pieces of advice on our wedding day that I share with everyone and those are:
1. "Any nerves you may feel prior to walking down the aisle, once that door is open and you see Paul, all those nerves will melt away."
2. "Take a few minutes during the night to step outside away from all the people and be alone in each others love."
3. "Step back and take a minute to look around the room at all of the people that came out to share in your love."
So why do I want to work with brides to be? As a holistic health coach I focus on the whole person and their needs as a bride. Maybe they want to lose a few pounds to feel confident on their wedding day. I will help them achieve this but not by crash dieting, by eating healthy and exercising. I help women with lifestyle changes. My goal is for them to take these healthy practices into their marriage. I, also, focus on stress relief practices. This differs for each person. These practices will help in the planning process of a wedding, the wedding day itself, but more importantly, life after the wedding day.
I hope that this little blog helped you understand why I work with brides. A wedding is such an exciting time but it is just one day. Marriage is the rest of your life. I want every woman to go into their marriage healthy, happy and full of love and joy.
Until next time.
Lisa Catherine KENNY
Photography by: Lauren Mudrock Photography