Wedding Bliss

I am back! As some of you may know, I took a little bit of a leave the past couple months because I just got married! Thank you for being patient with me while I took some time for myself. But now I am back and ready to dive in!

Throughout this past year since I began my Bridal Wellness program, I have received a lot of questions about it such as:

  • Why do you want to work with brides?
  • Is this just to help them look good or fit into their wedding dress?
  • How will brides benefit from your work?
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I have always answered these questions with the same few answers but as I took some time off to prepare for our wedding, I really truly was able to think about these questions. Today I want to share my wedding experience with you and hopefully this will help you understand a little bit more about why I want to work with brides. And no it is not just to help them fit into their dress for one day. It is so much more.

As I have always said to my clients, and to any folks out there interested in what I do, I want to help brides to destress, feel confident and enjoy every moment of their wedding day and life afterwards. So what did this look like on our wedding day? Let me tell you.

Our wedding day was magical. I know many people say that about their wedding but it truly was. The planning phases of the wedding weren't always enjoyable. We didn't always see eye to eye on certain decisions that were being made but at some point you have to pick and choose your battles. Some things just aren't worth stressing over. During the last couple weeks before the wedding, I started to feel the stress. I hadn't before but now we were on crunch time and waited until the last minute to do a lot of things. We had some little hiccups along the way, but we either fixed them or just said "it is out of our hands" and brushed it off. During these last few weeks, I would spend 5-20 minutes a day breathing and meditating as well as exercising daily. Let me tell you, this was a game changer for me! It is so important to take some time for yourself!

So what did our wedding day look like? Absolutely perfect. Yes maybe the DJ didn't play every song we wanted to, my nephews (the ring bearers) were running around like crazy men, nobody really understood what to do with the guestbook, the best man almost broke the microphone, we almost forgot to cut the cake, we had that crazy uncle who guests think is a wedding crasher and I am sure I could probably go on. But the truth is, those "bad" things that I just listed weren't bad at all. They weren't in the timeline or schedule but they made the wedding what it was. When I look back on our wedding, I don't regret one single thing. I don't think anything wrong happened. It was a perfect night. I married the man of my dreams and had a night that I will never forget with my family and friends. Ladies, that is what a wedding is all about. It is not about perfection or competition, it is about LOVE. I received 3 pieces of advice on our wedding day that I share with everyone and those are:

1. "Any nerves you may feel prior to walking down the aisle, once that door is open and you see Paul, all those nerves will melt away." 

2. "Take a few minutes during the night to step outside away from all the people and be alone in each others love." 

3. "Step back and take a minute to look around the room at all of the people that came out to share in your love."

So why do I want to work with brides to be? As a holistic health coach I focus on the whole person and their needs as a bride. Maybe they want to lose a few pounds to feel confident on their wedding day. I will help them achieve this but not by crash dieting, by eating healthy and exercising. I help women with lifestyle changes. My goal is for them to take these healthy practices into their marriage. I, also, focus on stress relief practices. This differs for each person. These practices will help in the planning process of a wedding, the wedding day itself, but more importantly, life after the wedding day.

I hope that this little blog helped you understand why I work with brides. A wedding is such an exciting time but it is just one day. Marriage is the rest of your life. I want every woman to go into their marriage healthy, happy and full of love and joy.

Until next time.

XOXO

Lisa Catherine KENNY

Lisa@lisacatherinecoaching.com

www.LisaCatherineCoaching.com

 

Photography by: Lauren Mudrock Photography

8 Ways to Decompress & De-Stress

Everyone gets stressed! It is just part of being human. It is the way that a person handles stress or prevents it that sets people apart from others. I am currently going through (what people tell me) are 2 of the biggest stressors in a person's life, getting married and moving. I have to say, up until recently I was telling everyone they were crazy! I was strutting around having a BLAST planning our wedding and finding a house to buy! And than it hit me...POW! All of the stress came out at once. In-law and parent problems, guest list troubles, paperwork out the wazoo for the house, the fact that a house costs LOADS of money and on and on and on. I thought my head was going to explode at one point!

That is when I had to take a step back out of my head and ask myself, "what is it about these things that are making you stressed? Can you fix it? If not, how are you going to handle it? Are these problems that huge? Or are you making them bigger than they have to be?" I remember sitting on the couch in my office just thinking about these questions over and over and finally I got up, fixed what I could about the stressors and than told myself that the other stressors are out of my control and I can't worry about them. 

There are always going to be ups and downs in life, but the key is to not let them ruin your happiness. Put those stressors into God's hands, and brush it off. Life is too short to worry about silly little things because half the time we create a bigger problem in our head than what it really is in real life! Do you agree? We have so much going on in our head that sometimes we need to take a step out of it.

Sometimes sitting in silence and breathing just doesn't work for me, I need other things to distract me and calm my brain and nerves. Here are a list of what I do to help relax my nerves when I feel like I am going to be stressed or I already am.

1. As I said earlier, breathing. Breathing is one of the best practices for stress relief. When you breathe deeply it sends a message to your brain telling it to calm down and relax.

2. Take a walk outside. Science has proven that fresh air and sunlight reduce stress and improve overall mood.

3. Craft or color. It is no coincidence that within the past few years, adult coloring books are everywhere! It can be very meditative, fun  and, somewhat, mindless. 

4. Yoga or meditation. Yoga is known to reduce stress, anxiety, lower blood pressure, lower your heart rate and much much more!

5. Clean. Cleaning can actually be a form of meditation believe it or not. Also, cleaning provides relief from clutter and, SHOCKER, clutter is very stressful.

6. Journal. Studies have shown that journalling is associated with significant decreases in stress, depression and anxiety. 

7. Listen to soothing music. Listening to music can have a relaxing effect on our mind and body, especially slow, relaxing music.

8. Light a lavender scented candle. Lavender is known for its calming and relaxing effects on the body. It has been shown that, cortisol, a stress hormone produced by the body, was shown to have a great reduction in the measured levels within 5 minutes of the patient smelling Lavender. You don't have to just light a lavender scented candle. I, also, use a lavender eye pillow and lavender linen spray for nights that I have trouble sleeping. Keeping a little jar of lavender essential oil is, also, helpful. I keep one in my purse. It helps if you are feeling tense or stressed to rub a small amount on your temples. Or put a few drops in your bath for a nice, soothing lavender bath.

 

These are just some ways that help me with stress management and relief. I hope they help! Please, feel free to share what stress relief tactics work for you! I would love to hear them! 

 

XOXO 

Lisa Catherine