If I took a group of women and asked them how comfortable they felt about their body, I can guarantee the majority of them would say that they weren't comfortable. Why do you think that women are never happy with their body? I can tell you that I was one of those women. I hated everything about my body because I didn't look like that stick figure in the magazine or that actress in my favorite TV show. I compared myself to EVERYONE! Did this make me happy?? NO WAY! It wasn't until I stopped comparing myself to these stick figure models and everyone else that I truly became happy and love the body that I am in.
Women are amazing! Every single one of us. My husband tells me all the time that "women win." We have the ability to grow a human being inside of us. What better gift could we possibly have?? Not only can we do that but think of everything else we do on a daily basis. We are superheros, ladies! And we are all DIFFERENT and UNIQUE superheroes! We can't all look like Wonder Woman. What fun would that be? I will never be a stick thin model! I have thighs and the "Moseley butt" that my family always jokes about. I used to hate these things but this is what God gave me and I gotta flaunt it. What are some things about you that you may not be quite happy with? I challenge you to look at those body "flaws" as gifts and not something to fix. Right now I am pregnant and, let me tell you, these last few weeks have been very challenging as my baby grows. I found myself thinking the other day about what my belly is going to look like after I have this little boy. I had to stop and remind myself that I am GIVING BIRTH! Who cares what my belly looks like. Yes, I will probably have stretch marks and a flabby tummy for some time. Who cares! I can look at those things as just another reminder of how AWESOME women are and what my body went through to give us this little bundle of joy.
So why do we put so much pressure on looking perfect? Because it surrounds us every day in the media. I stopped buying trashy magazines, diet books, watching trashy reality TV shows and I threw out my scale. These things didn't make me happy. What can you do to help stop comparing yourself to others and truly be happy in your own body? It is not going to be a diet or working out more. Okay maybe you are living an unhealthy lifestyle and need to lose a few pounds but that shouldn't mean that you don't love who you are right at this very moment. Women should be able to look in the mirror and love everything about themselves at this point in their lives. Not "if I lose some weight" or "if I tone up my arms or legs". Just remember that you are a superhero. You have people that love you for you. I always say, "comparison is the root of all evil."
My challenge for each and every woman out there that may not completely love their body right now, is to write positive affirmations on a piece of paper, put them on your mirror and recite them daily. Doing this may help challenge you and overcome negative thoughts. When you repeat them daily, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.
Some examples are:
- I am strong. I am beautiful. I am enough.
- I accept and love my body as it is, and I work to make it better.
- My self worth is not determined by the number on the scale.
- Workout because you LOVE your body, not because you hate it.
- I love my....
Please, comment below with any other affirmations or advice for women and share this article with any women that you think are superheroes.
Lisa Catherine Kenny